Inappropriate displays of affection

 SO, my lady and I have been going swimming a lot lately, to lose weight, and we noticed "rules" posted at our public indoor swimming pools.

One of those rules reads "No inappropriate displays of affection."

SAY WHAT?

So here is a question for you all - what would YOU consider inappropriate displays of affection in public?

Or around family, friends?

How is displays of affection affected by culture, religion, who you are doing it in front of (family or strangers)?

Would a big juicy kiss, while maybe acceptable in a shopping mall be unacceptable in a church - or public indoor swimming pool? What about a prolonged hug that appears passionate? 

How about personal comfort? No one is likely to feel uncomfortable watching a couple holding hands or giving each other a light peck, but what if they are being playful and one slaps the other on the behind? Should you temper your show of affection so as to NOT offend whoever is around you?

Forget about guidelines, though there are some on the net, for example:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/social-instincts/202306/3-myths-about-pda-you-need-to-let-go-of

Anyways, long story short, we jokingly asked one of the lifeguards what would be considered an inappropriate display of affection and she shrugged and said "I don't know, I guess just don't fondle each other." Cute answer. So we don't. 

But what would your suggestions be? Different depending on where you are or who you are in front of?

Do you prioritize your own limits on displays of affection or do you prioritize what you worry might offend someone else?

After all, you don't want to limit your display of affection because...............

Research shows that couples often hold back from showing physical affection in public due to a fear of being judged.

Upbringing and parental influence. Childhood experiences play a significant role in shaping our values and relationship preferences. If individuals grew up in families where touch or public affection was not emphasized, or even discouraged, they may feel less inclined to engage in PDA.

Whatchathink?









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